Struggling in Your 20s

You’re getting older, but are you growing up? The older we get, the more we have to examine ourselves, not only physically, but also emotionally and spiritually.

It may not be the best feeling in the moment, but the longterm benefits are priceless and the older you will thank you. If you’re not sure where to start, here is a list of five signs you’re starting to make self progress in your 20s.

1. You Practice Self Reflection

How will you know you’ve grown if you never reflect on your character or personal life? Thinking about who you are and how far you have come is a great way to measure progression.

2. You Know Your Areas of Improvement

It’s okay to not know everything, to not have everything completely mastered. In fact, if you do believe you have everything perfected, you may want to go back to number one. Make a note of the areas you want to work on and develop a plan for turning rough spots into talents.

3. You’re Less Judgmental

By a certain age, it’s most beneficial for you and others to understand that life has not been the same for everyone. Many have had unique obstacles that impact their everyday life and being. Show grace and remember everyone is created in the image of God.

4. You Consider Others

Selfishness will leave you with only the first four letters of the word. The people in our lives that support us and love us are a blessing. Life can change at any moment and when it does, you’re going to want reliable people around you.

5. You Think and Process Before You Respond

When you live in purpose, you realize every word you speak holds weight. In a day and age of constant disagreement, debate and outrage, it’s easy to fly off the handle about the things you’re passionate about. Practice processing your feelings and emotions about what makes you upset before you express them. Consider whether they are worth expressing at all or if they are better shared with a smaller group.

Like you, we are also working to be our best selves, balancing life and navigating our beginning post college graduation years. You are not alone.

Let’s continue to help one another! Share this with someone on a journey of growth and maturity.

Sincerely,

Your Friends at Post Graduate

After the applause dies down and the crowd disperses, what’s left? Life after college, your first few years of true adulthood, there’s more responsibility, yet more freedom, and more time to do what you actually love.

But why does it feel like this? Your early twenties sound like the ideal scenario, but they can present a unique array of challenges. The truth is, there will always be something, even when you’re in complete control, but if you’re waiting for everything to go well before you start enjoying life, then you’ll never enjoy life.

Feel your feelings, of course! But enjoy your blessings as well. Here are a few reasons why your twenties may not be enjoyable.

1. A Lack of Patience

Sometimes we’re so focused on getting that thing we’ve always dreamed of that we forget to enjoy the journey. It’s possible to be so wrapped up in accomplishing goals that we forget about everything else. Do you have goals or do your goals have you? Besides, we’re much more successful when were holistically happy.

2. Ungratefulness

Take inventory of all the good things in your life, even if they seem small and insignificant. There are instances where life is not enjoyable because we simply choose not to enjoy it, but usually we don’t know we’re making this horrible decision. Don’t be that person who doesn’t realize how good that have it until it’s gone. While striving for greater, be grateful for what you have.

3. Living for Others

Could the reason why you’re not enjoying your life be that you’re attempting to live someone else’s? It’s easier than you think to live a life that someone else created for you, especially if you love them. Their wants may have automatically become yours without you even noticing it. Living to meet other’s desires can also happen on a societal level. Making decisions to be who the world says people who look like you, who come from where you come from, should be can dim the soul.

4. Befriending the Wrong People

Our friends shape our experience of the world. You can go down the exact same path as someone else, but have a completely different experience because of who you went with. Examine those closest to you and your relationships with them. What do they look like? How do they make you feel?

5. Disregard for Mental and Emotional Health

Mental and emotional problems don’t just go away. In fact, if you ignore them, they can get worse. Although you may feel resilient, mental health challenges can affect us in ways we do not realize. Prioritize your mind and your feelings so that you can be the best version of you. You owe it to yourself.

It’s okay not to feel okay about your twenties. Life is full of highs and lows, but don’t forget to celebrate the good times. Have any other suggestions? Share them with the Post Graduate Gang in the comments or on our socials.

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Count Your Blessings,

Post Graduate

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