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Life

5 Reasons You’re Not Enjoying Life After College or Your Twenties

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After the applause dies down and the crowd disperses, what’s left? Life after college, your first few years of true adulthood, there’s more responsibility, yet more freedom, and more time to do what you actually love.

But why does it feel like this? Your early twenties sound like the ideal scenario, but they can present a unique array of challenges. The truth is, there will always be something, even when you’re in complete control, but if you’re waiting for everything to go well before you start enjoying life, then you’ll never enjoy life.

Feel your feelings, of course! But enjoy your blessings as well. Here are a few reasons why your twenties may not be enjoyable. 

1. A Lack of Patience

Sometimes we’re so focused on getting that thing we’ve always dreamed of that we forget to enjoy the journey. It’s possible to be so wrapped up in accomplishing goals that we forget about everything else. Do you have goals or do your goals have you? Besides, we’re much more successful when were holistically happy. 

2. Ungratefulness

Take inventory of all the good things in your life, even if they seem small and insignificant. There are instances where life is not enjoyable because we simply choose not to enjoy it, but usually we don’t know we’re making this horrible decision. Don’t be that person who doesn’t realize how good that have it until it’s gone. While striving for greater, be grateful for what you have.

3. Living for Others

Could the reason why you’re not enjoying your life be that you’re attempting to live someone else’s? It’s easier than you think to live a life that someone else created for you, especially if you love them. Their wants may have automatically become yours without you even noticing it. Living to meet other’s desires can also happen on a societal level. Making decisions to be who the world says people who look like you, who come from where you come from, should be can dim the soul.

4. Befriending the Wrong People

Our friends shape our experience of the world. You can go down the exact same path as someone else, but have a completely different experience because of who you went with. Examine those closest to you and your relationships with them. What do they look like? How do they make you feel?

5. Disregard for Mental and Emotional Health

Mental and emotional problems don’t just go away. In fact, if you ignore them, they can get worse. Although you may feel resilient, mental health challenges can affect us in ways we do not realize. Prioritize your mind and your feelings so that you can be the best version of you. You owe it to yourself.

It’s okay not to feel okay about your twenties. Life is full of highs and lows, but don’t forget to celebrate the good times. Have any other suggestions? Share them with the Post Graduate Gang in the comments or on our socials. 

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Count Your Blessings,

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Love

Encouragement for the 20-Something Single | Single in Your 20s

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It’s so easy to just go through the motions in your 20s. You graduate, get a good job, save up for a place, travel the world, find someone to marry and then eventually settle down. Right?

Not always, life has a way of surprising us, sometimes in pleasant ways, and sometimes in temporarily painful ones. You may find yourself wanting something other than a romantic relationship right now, or you may be shocked that you’ve come to the end of a romance you thought would last forever.

Whether you’re single and “ready to mingle” or single and “not looking” right now, this time in your life is precious. It’s a great time to focus on who you are, what you want, and what you want out of a future relationship.

Romance takes a lot out of us. It affects our minds, our souls, our moods and even our bodies. Relationships also take up a lot of time, and after you hit 20, life begins to accelerate faster than it ever.

So when you put it all into perspective, you really see why singleness isn’t so bad. Of course, there are risks in everything. Take them, but think about what you have to loose in the process.

For the not-looking’s, wait until you really want a relationship. It may not be the most common way of doing things, but there may be an undiscovered calling you still have to fulfill. Who knows? You may meet your person doing just that.

It’s also not really fair to lead someone on because you’re bored in your intentional “not looking” period. Be honest, and if it’s really meant to be, they may still be available after your time of singleness is over.

In the same way, there could be an undiscovered calling, there could be a few character knots that need to be untangled before we let someone else in, something else that many of us can feel in our gut. You do not have to be perfect, because human perfection does not exist, but you can choose to be your best self.

For the ready-to-mingle’s, don’t have unrealistic standards, but don’t settle either. We usually know in our souls when we’ve met someone we could see ourselves with long-term. Don’t force yourself to like someone because of some non-existent relational clock or a false notion of scarcity.

You deserve a lifetime of true and honest happiness, and we believe in this for you! Stay strong during your single years! Treat yourself to some fresh flowers and learn to enjoy your own company.

Your Friend,
Post Graduate